Don’t Say ‘At Least’

dear adults,
when i talk about my grandad dying please don’t say “at least he lived a long life” or “you had more time than some people” or stuff like that. i know you mean well but it kinda makes it worse. like i’m not meant to feel this sad.
he wasn’t just old — he was my person. the one who always had my back, made me feel safe. now he’s gone and there’s just this big empty space.
sometimes i don’t need you to say anything clever. just say “that sucks” or “i’m here if you need me”. that’s it.
don’t try to make it better. just let it be what it is.